Monday, November 9, 2009

Momma Bear, Silenced

I have just been faced with a situation that threw me into a bit of a tizzy.  I feel like one of my children has been slighted and I'm offended, for my son.  I'm angry that this happened and my natural tendency is to bring it up to the person in charge.  My desire is to contact this person and to let this person know how I feel, in a tactful and respectful manner. 

Instead, I discussed it with my husband. I let him know how I felt and I told him that I wanted to address it further.  He told me no! 

What? Are you kidding me? This is my child and its my job, as his mother, to stick up for him, right? How can you tell me to drop it? How can you expect me to give this up?  Huh? 

In all of my frustration and anger and hurt feelings and drive to protect my son, God reminded me that I have to listen to my husband.  Justin has told me to let this go.  He's instructed me to be patient and to let this work itself out.  He sees no benefit of me bringing it up. 

Everyone must submit himself to the governing authorities, for there is no authority except that which God has established. The authorities that exist have been established by God.  Romans 13:1

A woman should learn in quietness and full submission. 1 Timothy 2:11

Therefore, it is necessary to submit to the authorities, not only because of possible punishment but also because of conscience.  Romans 13:5
Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. Ephesians 5:21
Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. Ephesians 5:22
Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.  Ephesians 5:24
Obey your leaders and submit to their authority. They keep watch over you as men who must give an account. Obey them so that their work will be a joy, not a burden, for that would be of no advantage to you.  Hebrews 13:17
What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don't they come from your desires that battle within you? James 4:1
Confronting the situation would be a direct disrespect to my husband, who is an authority over me and our household.  He sees no good that would come from me bringing this up.  He addressed the situation in the manner he felt was most appropriate and he has asked me to accept the outcome and move on.  He was very clear and, as much as I may disagree, I have to accept his direction and let this go.  I must resist the temptation I have to "address it", for multiple reasons.
I've recently learned that God will hold our husbands accountable for our family, our children's actions, and our actions (Read Genesis. Who did God hold accountable for Eve's actions?).  I've learned that because God placed our husbands in authority over our family, it is his responsibility to lead us down the path that God has revealed to him, in big things and small things. 
God doesn't desire for ME to lead our family, make decisions for our family, or teach our children how to respond to life's circumstances - especially our sons!  God's desire is for me to TRUST MY HUSBAND and follow HIS directions.  Doing this, not only shows my husband a higher level of respect, but it also allows him to fulfill his role as leader and protector of our family and allows him an opportunity to teach, by example, to our sons how to be a man.  That is a huge responsibility for my husband!  How dare I step all over that by doing it "my way"? 
This isn't easy for me...I want to stick up for my cub.  I want to show my teeth and growl and force this person to see things my way.  I want to stand on my hind legs and show how much I'm willing to protect my cubs.  I want to let this person who offended my child to know that what happened was not right!  

Instead, I will take my offenses to the Lord and I will trust that Justin knows best, for me and for our son.  I will follow Justin's direction and respect his authority over me.  I will let it go. 

How can you apply this idea to your marriage this week?  Pray about it.  Ask God to show you areas of disobedience (and subsequent disrespect) to your husband. Ask for forgiveness from God and your Husband.  Ask God to help you be more respectful and obedient to your husband's authority over your family - in big things and small things.